Think back on all the Thanksgivings of your past. What do you remember most? It’s not whether the gravy separated, the turkey was dry, or the pecan pie got a little too crispy. You remember the time spent with family, the joy of coming together to cook all of the delicious dishes in the kitchen, and all the traditions that made those holidays so special. This year, don’t let Thanksgiving turn into just a mad dash to get the turkey prepared in time – spend time building the family traditions that your children will remember for years to come.

Tip #1: Get everyone involved.

Thanksgiving lineups often include family members of all ages, but whether you have grandparents or toddlers in attendance, everyone can bring something “to the table.” Try out some of these creative ways to get the entire group involved.

Everyone

To increase the chances of getting everything done on time, try dividing and conquering. Before the big day, ask each family member to choose a must-have side dish. Then, have them bring the recipe and ingredients to help prepare it with you. Alternatively, if they prefer, they can make the dish at home and bring it along, potluck style.

Young and Elder Guests

Ahead of the meal, keep the children busy setting the table. They might have fun rolling the napkins or writing place cards for each guest’s spot. You can even get creative and give them a (not-too-messy) craft idea to complete at the kids’ table. For the elderly guests, ask them to offer a prayer or read scripture for the group. At the end of the meal, they also could serve the dessert.

Anyone who isn’t cooking

Task the not-so-culinary-inclined family members with facilitating outdoor game ideas to entertain the children. Who doesn’t love to throw a football around in the crisp air and fall sunshine?

Cleanup Crew

Anyone who isn’t busy looking after the children, setting the table, or whipping up their famous dish in the kitchen is on the clean-up crew. Offer a prize to the fastest to volunteer to wash and dry dishes. Tell guests to pair up into teams of two and take turns trying to rack up the most points with each Nerf shot. Or if everyone is too stuffed to move, turn the TV off, grab a board game and sit down with your family. A little friendly competition makes for a wonderful holiday tradition!

Tip #2: Remember others.

Thanksgiving is a time for both gratitude and generosity. Remember those who might not be able to spend the holidays with loved ones – like the college student staying on campus, an elderly couple in your church, or a family new to town. Even a small act of kindness can make a world of difference to someone on Thanksgiving.

Invite a friend

For those who don’t have family around or cannot travel home to see theirs, an invitation to Thanksgiving dinner could mean the world. Think about who this might be in your life. It could be a college student, a widow, a coworker, or even a young couple who’s new to town – invite him or her over to be a part of your family’s celebration.

Drop off a treat

Package up remaining slices of pie or cookies and head out for a “hot chocolate walk.” Deliver the goodies to neighbors and friends while sipping on some hot chocolate, coffee, or tea. Dropping off treats will put smiles on everyone’s faces while sharing joy and gratitude with your community. You could also deliver tasty leftovers to the hardworking civil servants at the local firehouse or police station.

Embrace the season for giving

Have your kids donate a box of toys to a local charity for children spending Thanksgiving in the hospital or a shelter. Leading up to Thanksgiving, there are also ways to donate canned goods to families in need.

Tip #3: Make it memorable.

Thanksgiving revolves around family. And your family is unique – this year, start making your own unique traditions.

Capture the moments

Take a family photo each year (and better yet, designate a family member to serve as photographer for the day). Whether of the kiddie table, the frenzied prep in the kitchen, or the games going on outside, capture the memorable traditions on film to look back on year after year. You could even create a photo book with recipes from each year.

Award Prizes

Does each family member bring a dessert or side? Vote on the best and award a prize!

Include Family Members Who Couldn’t Make It

Thanks to Facetime and Skype, it’s easy to contact the relatives we love that couldn’t make the trip for Thanksgiving. (Consider synchronizing meals using Facetime; this way the entire family can pray together online.)